Monty's March 2008 Newsletter

March 12, 2008

There are 8 entries in this month's E-Newsletter
Dear Friends: One Man's Punishment Is Another Man's Discipline
Ask Monty: Have there been important revisions in 50 years?
Monty's Principles for People: I have a teacher who is a bully
Monty's Challenge: How can I pass this trait along to other aspects of my life?
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Dear Friends,

In the process of describing negative and positive reinforcement, it is necessary for me to define several terms used in the world of the study of behavior. I would like to confine my remarks to the world of modifying behavior within the parameters of the Monty Roberts concepts.

It is essential to know what violence is according to my definitions prior to defining areas of punishment and reward or negative reinforcement and positive reinforcement. In my world, violence is an act of force brought to bear by one individual on another for the purpose of modifying behavior. This act can range from overt aggression, such as hitting someone, all the way to shouting, name calling, threatening or demeaning. In the world, according to Monty Roberts, when one man is running on a grassy field and heading south should he confront another man running north, decide to crash into him then knock him to the ground that may not be a violent act.

If one of those men is wearing a dark set of clothes and the other is in white, and they are on football teams operating under a bilaterally agreed-upon set of rules, then it is probably not violence. If one of the men gets to his feet and stomps on the face of the other man, there is no question that it is violence. In the world of training horses, if one acts out to overtly cause pain to a horse in order to directly control his behavior, that is an act of violence.

When one picks up the reins in order to guide the horse, he is executing an act of negative reinforcement. As the horse cooperates, he releases the reins thus rewarding the horse for appropriate behavior. I do not consider the use of a bit as violence or even punishment. The same is true for a halter. In fact, a fence or a lead rope might be considered a form of negative reinforcement. Negative reinforcement was never meant to be a term to describe bad horsemanship. Without negative reinforcement, very little horsemanship could be accomplished at all.

To address the parameters governing negative and positive reinforcement, we must once again go to the definitions. Negative reinforcement is to REMOVE something from the discourse in question and positive reinforcement is to ADD something to the discourse. It was never intended by the scientists involved to suggest that negative reinforcement was equal to harsh treatment.

In recent years, the explosion of interest in nonviolent training has produced a collection of partly trained people who have summarily changed the intent of the original behaviorists who created the term negative reinforcement. These new arrivals to the scene have presupposed that “negative reinforcement sounds like it should be something bad so we will assume that it is something bad”. That is an unfair use of the term.

In the dressage world, a whip is often used in the process of training certain maneuvers which are included in the competition tests. Most dressage riders refrain from causing pain with those whips but use them as a form of communication by which they request certain movements. There is no question that this is negative reinforcement, but I certainly don’t consider it either violence or punishment.

Driving horses are communicated with to a large extent with the use of long driving whips. These could be used to generate pain, but are most often used as tools of communication. Once again, I am of the opinion that no one should classify this as violent, while in fact it is negative reinforcement. We could go on to speak of the spur or even the bare heal of a boot, all of which are negative reinforcement. They could be used to cause pain, and when and if they are, then and only then would I classify it as violence.

Punishment is a word that I choose to leave out of any descriptions of the work that I do. I much prefer to use the term discipline when referring to a negative consequence for what I perceive to be a negative act. My problem with the word punishment is that it often includes procedures that I could only term as violent. Discipline is generally thought of as a far more gentle form of negative consequence for negative actions.

It is my belief that all negative actions should generate negative consequences, but without the use of what I would consider violence. The contract system that I utilize for children is an example of a bilateral agreement to accept negative consequences (discipline) for a negative act. In the case of children, it is written out and signed. In the case of horses, it is simply repeated without failure thereby creating the same contract.

The horse will quickly come to understand that a certain action of his is unacceptable when it is repeatedly met with a discipline in the absence of violence. He will seek to eliminate that negative act and choose a replacement action that creates a positive consequence. I have come to believe that horses are just as quick to understand and agree to a contract as a nine or ten-year old child is.

Let me explain a situation that has occurred recently with a horse I am working with. This horse, for whatever reason, decided that when he exits the starting gate, he should bear to the right rather sharply and, having reached the outer limits of the racetrack, he should slow down and virtually refuse to go forward. In most traditional training, the rider would tend to choose to strike the horse on the right side, attempting to drive him back to the left and then on the hip to force him forward. It is my opinion that this is ineffective and in fact is exactly the opposite of what should be done.

I instructed my rider to act quickly when the horse bears to the right so as to pull him even more to the right executing small circles to the right that are relatively rapid and laborious. Making the outside of the track an uncomfortable place to be is designed to encourage the horse to want to be on the inside of the track. In three to four weeks a marked improvement was noticed.

Had the horse been whipped on the right side, it may well have scared him to the left a few times, but in my opinion it would have been an invitation to war and the animosity created within this horse would have lead to problems too overwhelming to deal with. When you go to war with a horse, remember that he is bigger and faster and when it becomes a fight, it is virtually impossible to win it. Causing the horse to want to stop this negative behavior is far more effective that to try to force him to stop it.

In conclusion, let me say that the term PIC NIC is an appropriate one when dealing with horses or children. The letters stand for Positive Instant Consequences and Negative Instant Consequences. If one chooses to be a horseman, then one is well advised to agree to the PIC NIC theory and to execute this agreement without fail. It is thought by most scientists that we have approximately 3 second with which to respond either positively or negatively to the actions of any given horse, and it is well to remember that a non response is tantamount to an agreement to accept the action in question.

- MONTY

Monty has been focusing his energies on creating educational environments where his students can learn about the application of the Join-Up concepts to ridden work. With seven world championships to his credit, he has a wealth of knowledge to share. Please continue to write to us regarding your toughest challenges at the stable and in the ring.

This photo from a recent UK tour shows dressage rider Carrie Adams and Ascot Bewes demonstrating Join-Up in the saddle using violence-free cues as taught in Monty's textbook From My Hands to Yours: Lessons from a lifetime of training championship horses.

Carrie Adams

 

Question:
You have been working with horses for more than fifty years now. Have there been important revisions?

Monty’s Answer:
Each day that I work with a horse it seems that I learn something. The basic concepts of Join-Up® belong to Equus the specie. Their understanding of how to live and survive dates back as many as 50 million years. Therefore, my discovery of what I call Join-Up belongs to the horses and they have not changed what they believe in the short span of 60 years or so that I have dealt with their language.

Kudos from the UK Tour February 2008!
What an evening! Charlotte and I thoroughly enjoyed ourselves and had a super time with our friends watching what was both an educational and entertaining event. I must say though, that the work you and your colleagues do is a credit to you one and all. Horses can't speak up for themselves and it's only through educating beginners like me that hopefully we make their time with us a good one! Please do pass on to Kelly and the Team the fact that I for one found the whole evening excellent and will definitely be going to another in the future. A fitting wrap up for a wonderful tour!

Monty’s New Educational Tools for 2008
Dear Readers: We really appreciate the suggestions that you have been sending in and we are exploring every idea to bring you the most unique equine learning tool on earth! Monty is developing a monthly lesson that sends Monty’s comprehensive knowledge of the horse to you in video form one theme at a time. As an advocate for gentle training and Join-Up principles, we want to know what you would want to see in Monty's subscription. Please continue to send comments to Debbie@montyroberts.com.

Monty's Challenge
Next Week's Question to Answer
Patience is NOT a strong attribute of mine. However, I have all the patience in the world when it comes to my horse or any other horse. I never lose my cool and I never resort to force. If it takes months to teach something to a horse, then so be it. How can I pass this trait along to other aspects of my life? And is there any reason for this patience coming to the fore when dealing with horses? Sorry if this question seems off the wall but this really puzzles me at times.
Sincerely.
Olga Musson-Zepke (Johor, Malaysia)

Test Yourself!
I want all of my students to learn to be better trainers than me! Test yourself each week as I challenge you to answer the question from below by writing to askmonty@montyroberts.com. I mean this. Sit down and write an answer. Don't wait for my answer next week. If you have been reading my Weekly Questions and Answers for the last six months, you should be in a position to do this. Why should you bother? Because it will help you focus. There is probably a comparable question in your life that needs answering – or will be. If you can gain insight into how to go about answering a practical question that is loosely related to your problem, this exercise will help you answer your nagging question. Then read my answer. Then read my other answers at this link: Ask Monty. The closest answer to mine each week will be awarded a DVD but more importantly you will learn! That's good for you! That's good for horses!
-Monty

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Monty's Principles
- The Horse Sense for People Column

Dear Mr Roberts,
My name is Joe and I love your work. I recently read one of your books, Horse Sense For People and was amazed by your skills with people. This is why I have decided to ask for help!

I have a teacher who is a bully and I, and many of my classmates, are scared of. I go into school and I dread having to speak to her, as I don't know whether she is in a good mood or a bad mood. A bad mood would result in me being shouted at and picked on for the rest of the day. I told my mum and she asked me "What would Monty do?" So I am asking you for advice on how to cope and what you would do. I have thought of asking her why she treats people like she does, but she always refuses to admit that she does.

I know you are very busy and this is not 'big' compared to other people you have helped, but I desperately need help.
Please help!
Joe C. Age 11

MONTY ANSWERS:

Dear Joe,
After carefully reading your question several times I would like to make my recommendations to you. First of all, let me tell you how strongly I identify with this enquiry. I know it was a long time ago, but I was 11 years old once and I remember it well. Looking back on it, I realize that 11 is a critical transition time for most boys. I wanted to feel like an adult and I was working quite hard and keeping pace with many of the adults around me. At the same time I lacked the experience and the maturity to make adult decisions.

There were many times when I resented what I perceived to be bullying tactics from adults around me and even a few youngsters about my age. I was just beginning to stiffen my spine and stand up to the bullies but it was difficult and I wasn't always sure of myself. As I look back on my life now, I realize that adult bullies will find it easy to control the 11 year old and it seems that it makes them feel superior to do it. I had a teacher when I was 11 years of age who was totally unfair to me and bullied me at every opportunity.

Fortunately there was another teacher in the school who was to be a future teacher for me. She actually conducted my American 8th year. I had come to know her and respected her very much. Thus, my future teacher gave me good advice regarding the bully. She told me to write a letter to the bullying teacher. The way I remember the letter, it was a lot like the one you sent to me. It clearly outlined my feelings regarding the treatment she was giving me. I recall asking the question straight forward "Why do you do this to me? Is it something I have done or does it just make you feel better?"

The bullying teacher never answered my letter but the 8th year teacher had read it and she approached the bully for me. I never knew exactly what the wonderful teacher said to the other but the bullying virtually disappeared on the spot. I now feel that as soon as the bully knew that another authority figure was aware of what she was doing, she decided to back away.

Your question does not address your relationship to other teachers in the school or to the headmaster or mistress. If I knew that you had a good relationship with a headmaster, I would immediately suggest that you write a letter, very much as you have to me. I would recommend that you make copies of it. I would first give the bully the letter and give her a chance to address the issues with you before bringing another adult into the scenario. If your bully does not respond I would take a copy to the headmaster or a friendly teacher and I would provide a copy to your parents as well.

Prior to acting in response to this bullying however, I would sit down with yourself and examine closely each of the events that you consider offensive to you. Be ultra fair with the teacher and assure yourself that you are dead certain that the behaviour of the teacher is inappropriate. If you should make this conclusion, then give her the first chance to address the situation before you bring others into the knowledge of this strained relationship.

It strikes me as obvious that you are a bright young man with a caring attitude. It seems to me that you have thought this situation out quite thoroughly. Let me congratulate you for taking the time and effort to communicate with me regarding this event which is clearly important to you. If you are successful, you may just help this teacher become better for many other students. If you are unsuccessful at least you have attempted to do the right thing and you can be proud of yourself for that.

One should be mindful of the fact that these negative people generally spend a very short period of time in our lives. We will typically move away from them as soon as we can. It should be our goal to not allow their negative influence to effect us and our future. For some psychological reason, we humans will often be what we dislike the most. For example, parents who physically abuse children will often produce offspring which will abuse the next generation. If we are to make the most of our lives we should work hard to set aside negative influences and strive to create, within ourselves, the kind of person we really want to be.

My last recommendation to you is that you control yourself and remain above any confrontational actions that many young people might feel moved to a accomplish. Do not under, any condition, attempt to do the thing to the bullying teacher that she is doing to you. Fighting it out will only get you a fight and is not likely to get you a victory. I recommend that you ask any adult that you are consulting not to be confrontational to the teacher on your behalf. Rise above this kind of behavior and you will mature to adulthood with a far better understanding of life than a bully could ever have.

Please feel free to correspond additionally advising me of the events that progress as you deal with these matters. Once again thank you for your enquiry and congratulations on your mature attitude.

Yours sincerely.
Monty Roberts

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